Uniqueness building individality

My oldest daughter has her own unique style for dressing. For example, she wears two scarfs and a head band over top them in which she says its her long hair. She has enjoyed having her own unique style since she qas almost two years old. She liked wigs at the begining in which she still does in addition to her hairs as well.

She says she enjoys her unique style, she enjoys changing the style of her doll baby clothing to her own way in which I find unique and fascinating that she's styling herself or her doll babies. I told her that maybe onw day she probably will go into being a designer or stylist for others.  Just as a suggestion always allow their potental to shine through because it gives them their ow continous uniqueness allowing them more expression of themselves.

Burning energy in doors

When parents are not able to get their babies out rather for reasons of work, tired or just not feeling up to it, finding various things to do around the house helps them burn energy for nap time. I personally struggled with getting babies out the house as much as I would like.

On top of not being able to get them and then trying to make sure to keep in mind of the others in the house only seem to be difficult to handle with three toddlers. So I just started allowing them to take time from their cartoons will taking their cartoons away and allowing them to play given them each a chance to express their individuality is priceless.

Allowig one to paint, the other play store and the third just play with her toys or color. Finding ways to burn energy seemed just out the question when inable to get them out of our apartment. Yet, starting the new way of giving them that chance even indoors to just be themselves has been well worth the trouble some and joyous moments making it all worth it!!!!!

Wonderment!!!

My middle daughter is very head strong and I'm in many ways looking for the answer to where she can express herself in the toddler stages and me not having to continously feel like I'm sounding like a broken record. I want her to be herself yet I just feel like I'm at a lose no matter how much I talk to help her understanding of wrongful actions. Yet she continues to keep repeating the same pattern I sometimes wonder is her constant repeating just in the toddler stages or her just wanting to keep going to keep pushing my buttons.

At her checkup, her doctor did inform me that she is all the normal toddler, yet some are just so head strong. I do admire her strong determination and free spiritness but we sometimes seem to be so much off the same page;-)

Parent critism to using own judgement

Should we take other parent critism to heart especially within the toddler stages. The toddler stages can be rough, yet in speaking with other parents its common to be sitting down feeding your toddler and a comment comes out from another parent.

I take a comment such as beating my child be the best form to parenting as okay being it's that parent's choice of chestizing their child but I prefer talking and timeout or taking away the toys. Comments seem to just come out blutly when it comes to parenting. I'm not sure exactly but maybe it is suppose to be ment well to a certain degree at the parent's behalf but does it have to be a comment all the time.

I've noticed that even when someone that maybe around children will comment quickly to another parents. Comments come at a cost with parenting taking parent critism in anyway I think depends on the comment and how the comment is directed. Yet at the end of the day with parenting especially within the toddlers and still learning ourselves we end making the decision that fits well with us individually.

The toy wars

Well having three toddlers I'm buying three of everything to lessen the disagreements, yet lately having the same toys have been a new war amoungst the three sisters. The toy can be the same yet have different colors and that seems to pose a problem at some point.

So I decided to try something new, I allowed them to pick out a toy that they each like and then see what happens when we returned home. When we arrived home they were excited to play with each others toys being that each one was alone being out the toy that they each liked. Since making the switch to allow them to chose, it has lessen arguments and they enjoy playing with each others toys.

Ezcema being the rash

For many parents, babies to
toddlers that deal with ezcema, I have taken ny youngest daughter to the doctor's office because her ezcema flairs so bad. When she has had flair ups, she gets the ezcema on her knees and elbows. It has went as far as on her eye lids, even on her toes. She has been on various types of prescribed ointmets and liquids to help relieve much her itching.

She's a toddler and has had ezcema since she was six months old. When the doctor visits would only temporarly relieve the itching and her symptoms, I wss left to come to my own solution. I was up and down with my daughter several times a night due to her skin being so itchy and dry with ezcema. I had to help. While shopping, I was told to try her own Silk milk being that it was natural and good for her. At that sametime she seemed to having a sour stomach with the whole milk and two percent milk so I was willing to try Silk milk.

I kept her on the luke warm baths, use the original dove soap and then she was on the Original Silk milk. In just a few days her itching seemed to calm down. I purchased the New Aveeno lotion for ezema and also the Cortizone (red and white) tube. In a week, using the lotion and cream twice a day aloning with givin her the Silk milk it started to lessen her redness and then it went on lessen her itching even more.

Suggestions

Original Silk milk
Cortizone and Avenno ezcema lotion

Learning to read nearby!!!!

I have been out and about in search of books to buy for my 5 year old to start learning to read. Well when I was at the library just a few days ago I found some books to check out that may just be away for her to learn to read at her own pace.

The books are at levels being a better way to her level of learning to read. I like that the books are not long and hard for her to read and also their enjoyable that its from her favorite cartoon shows. Her favorite is Strawberry Shortcake which she was excited that she could have such a book to learn to read. The library books came in handy when on a budget and not sure what to do when teaching your toddler to read. Ask the librarian and he/she will lead the way!

wanting the best!

Although I have little ways to go before my oldest two babies are going to school. I had not fully decided if I wanted to put them into public school or doing homeschooling. I recognize the benefits for both ways of schooling on behalf of their benefit. I can't help but think more when I take notice of a bullying type situation when their with other children.

When I took them to a play setting to have them be around other children in which they love to be active and just be around other children aside from each other. As my daughters and a few other children were playing together, a little boy came over to where they were playing and started giving smart comments. My oldest daughter just walked off and went on her way and when the same was done with the other kids nothing was said. As the little boy made such smart comments, his mother was only a few feet away but didn't say a word as her son made such remarks to the children in the play area.

My thoughts with homeschool being that it be a better take on education that bullying rather mental or physical so young will not be started. I just was amazed at how the bullying is turned off by the parents or maybe its a thing where they don't know what to do. In my last post I wanted to help the bullys yet how can I when their parents may not want to except their children's behavior or may not feel that type of help will not resolve the bullying completely.

Wanting to Help!

I'm wanting to help with bullying in my area. Its one of the reasons that I'm wanting to home school my children at home. Yet, it doesn't help the bullying of other children. Wanting to help and hope many more can to keep helping to keep it going.
Will continue........

Something has to give???

I know my last two posts have been about a situation that I went through with one or all of my babies. Well this post is a little different yet sorta the same. I wanna touch on the subject of bullying. I mean bullying that happens in kindergarten and through out the years up til graduation from high school. Bully has then stretched from the school grounds to sending messages to the students phone (middle and high school bullying) and sending messages by email as well. I was just shocked and overwhelmed with noticing that little children being that of toddler and kindergarten stages were picking on other children. It's a bother just so many children and teens living with uncertainty knowing of the bullying they take from others at school and other places, something just has not just prevent the bullying but possible get the bully to redirect their attention negatively off someone and put their energy some where else in a positive direction, being that bullying will continue....

Excepting all decisions

It's late, my babies are sleeping ever so peacefully in their beds. Many parents including myself just want the best for our children even if others don't always agree. When faced with a parent dilema, sometimes I look for that quick or random answer. Only wanting to make sure that I'm doing all that I can as a mother and a parent in general. Wanting the best in all walks of life for my girls aside from them being healthy and happy is joy. Sometimes when alone and my babies are resting, I think about the choices that they make when they get older that I'm not going always have a word involved. Because they will still need me just not as much as when each one of them were in my belly and like during infancy. Overall, I just want them to be happy with the choices that they make in their lives. Yet, my happiness is not always going to be their happiness which being a parent it's something that is a part in raising our children and excepting the choices that they make and not always agreed!

Using the Potty

The doctor and nurse explain to me that I need to just let my daughter feel completely comfortable enough to the point where she'll  go pee and poo in her potty. I was not sure what to say, just because is it best to wait or give a little nudge for them to be on their potty a little easier. When I left the doctor's office, I couldn't help remember all that I had tried for many months to where my daughter goes to the bathroom all through out the day except the pull-ups at night. Somethings we just have to take as it comes and all others to take their course being that fact of feeling that overall comfortability.

Its said by some doctors that toddlers are talking, being potty trained, well it seems the toddler stage has more on their plate then an adult with all their suppose to be doing within this stage. Well just like adults not all toddlers are saying a thousand words, wearing panties leaving the pull-ups behind and dressing their selves. Despite what is written or (suppose to be), toddlers learn at their own pace rather then at slow, medium or fast pace being going to the potty with the combination of pull-ups, they'll eventually get it all when their ready and able.

"Who wears the pants?"

Single parenting alone, no words can be given for the amount of strength that it takes to wear the pants of both paents. Yesterday, my middle daughter desided to take black marker and write on anything that she could in her room. From her comforter, television and even on her face and shirt. During their nap time, I do my best to relax, yet I knew that it was something that was done wrong when my oldest daughter started screaming like the house was caving in or something.

I took my time with walking down the hallway toward their room only holding my breath awaiting to what I was in store for when I stepped into the room. Parents, I know we have all been through the toddler stages with our children wanting to write on everything that is not nailed down. I have two babies in the toodler stages better known (Terrible twos). As I raised my voice making sure she understood that I was upset with her actions and showed all what she did wrong and not to do it again (yet sometimes its like talking to myself). I love and adore all three of my babies with my heart and sole but it's rough with having to switch wearing the pants with being both mother and father.  I can't help wonder if I'm ever going to be able to fully fulfill the father role alone or will I eventually need that male father in their lives in order to keep wanting to raise them to the best of my ability???